Violence in the name of honor
and forced marriage
Men's violence against women takes shape in a variety of forms, one of which is honour-related violence and oppression, and forced marriage.
In our society, there are young women and men who feel that it is not they themselves who decide over their own lives. Instead it is their families who control their lives and makes decisions for them in their everyday life. This is something that especially affects young girls. Young girls are often the ones who bear the family's honour on their shoulders, therefore their behaviour are monitored and controlled, so that she behaves according to the traditions and norms of the specific family. The control and limitations may differ, but it may affect and limit everything from everyday life, leisure activities, the choice of clothes to choices around education or marriage.
It’s a terrible feeling, that the ones who are supposed to be the closest in your life and the ones you should be able to rely on, are those who are the perpetrators and those who harm you. Although many choose to break with the family, they are well aware that such a decision may involve great loneliness and exclusion. A choice that stands between a life of freedom or living under the control and oppression of the family, which means that the risks of being punished, if one makes your own decisions or choices, is usually the most difficult choice that these young girls and boys are forced to make.
One of the most central norms is heterosexuality, which means that LGBTQ people are more at risk of being exposed to threats or violence if they choose to live openly with their sexuality.
If you suspect that you are a victim of honour-related violence or oppression, you can start by asking yourself these questions:
- Is it up to you to decide how to live your life?
- Is there someone else who controls the choices you make, the actions and who to love?
- Would it make it impossible for you to go against your family's will?
- What would happen if you chose "wrong"?
- Do you feel there's a risk of you being married off? Are you worried about traveling abroad?
- Are you threatened and beaten for living – or want to live like your friends?
- Do you feel pressured to do things that you don't really want to do?
There is help available, and we are here for you!
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