Rape

 

 

In Sweden we have a consent law and in this law makes it clear what rape is. Sex should be voluntary, and if it is not, then it is illegal. If someone has sex with you when you do not want to, then it's rape.

It is rape if someone has sex with you while you´re being in a helpless state and don´t have the ability to say no. You could be drugged, drunk, sick, have a disability or whatever makes you unable to say no.

  • It is rape even if you wanted to have sex from the start, and then changed your mind.

  • It is rape whether or not you’ve had sex with this person before or not. 

  • It is rape even if you didn’t scream or didn’t resist.

  • It doesn´t matter whether you are married to the person or not.

  • The rape doesn´t have to be vaginal, it can be anal, oral or that someone inserts fingers or objects in your vagina or anus.


The most common reaction to a rape is so-called "frozen fright". This means that the victim is paralyzed and therefore can not shout, kick, hit or otherwise get out of the situation. If you have been abused and experienced that you have been paralyzed, then this is not your fault or something you could have influenced. In this case, it’s your body that has reacted and put you in “frozen fright”.

 

No matter what the circumstances, the blame is always on the abuser. And he or she usually knows what they're doing is wrong, even if they can make it sound like they don´t understand at all that you've been hurt. Most often, the abuser has planned to go through with this even if your answer is no.

It's important to remember that it’s very common that the victim puts the blame on itself instead of the abuser. It’s never about the abuser having a strong sexual need. A rape is always an act of power.

When you’ve been raped, it’s common to feel:

  • Guilt and shame

  • Everything feels unreal

  • Depression

  • Mood swings

  • Anxiety and distress

  • Trouble sleeping, you wake up several times during the night, and have trouble going back to sleep

  • Flashbacks

  • Loss of appetite

That’s why it’s good to talk to someone about what you’ve been through. That way you can vent your thoughts and feelings, and get on with your healing process. It can be a psychologist, a counselor or someone here at Karlstads kvinnojour. Whoever you come in contact with first can help you to get in contact with someone for you to talk to, that can take in what you’re feeling. If you’re looking for someone on your own to talk to, you can talk to your health center (vårdcentral) to see a counselor, or you can call Karlstads kvinnojour on your own.

 

You don’t need to go through this on your own!

 

Call us, or email us if you need any advice or support, or if you need someone to talk to.

We’re here for you!

 

Call: 054-18 30 34

 

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